Posts Tagged ‘education’

Sharing your knowledge

In my previous post I talked about people growing up without certain life skills. Nearly 1000 words of ranting. :) However, I realized I am not entirely finished with the subject. Growing up, we learned stuff. Either from parents, family, friends, where ever. And some of that stuff we learned is probably pretty doggone cool.  Did your grandmother teach you to make a super flaky pie crust? Did your uncle teach you how to whittle some cool designs?

These things we learned in our lives were taught by someone that cared enough to show us. They invested their time, love, and knowledge to pass on something that they enjoyed enough to share. Now what do you do with that skill? Is it covered in cobwebs in the mental attic? Why not pull out that knowledge and pass it on to someone? Not only are you passing on a useful skill, but you are passing along legacy. You can tell your child that your grandparents taught you this. They can tell their children that it was a skill passed down in their family. And another bonus: You are bringing back a hobby or skill that you have enjoyed in the past.

Even if you don’t have children, there are plenty of people in the world that are eager to learn. Younger family members, neighbors, you name it. If you are a master in something, perhaps you could teach a class. Don’t keep your knowledge locked up in your head, share it with others.

Lacking life skills

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I had a conversation with a friend of mine this morning. He lives in Europe. I told him that I was knitting, and he said that knitting was a very large part of their country’s lifestyle. So important, in fact, that it is taught in school. So we talked back and forth about homemaking classes and such in school, and he said that they have whole schools dedicated to teaching homemaking. That got me to thinking… Why don’t we have schools like this? Required classes in school or some kind of prep school to teach teens and young adults basic life skills? While you may scoff at this, there are many, many people that enter the adult world without these living skills. My poor husband, bless him, is one of these people. So, using him as a model, I will relate how people are unleashed into the world without knowledge.

My husband moved directly from his parents’ house to mine, so he has never truly lived on his own. The man that I married was severely lacking in life skills. He couldn’t cook because his mother always cooked. He didn’t know how to sort laundry, another thing she always did. He did know how to mend, because his mother was a seamstress. So my husband, at 21 years old, was really not ready to enter the world of independent living. It’s not because he didn’t want to know, but because he was never taught by enforcing it. Read: chores.

I see this repeatedly today, where families will rely on one person to do a particular chore (or they just don’t do it at all by going out to eat, having a housekeeper, drop-off laundry, etc). This leaves children sorely ill-equipped to live on their own. Granted, the way that many of our baby boomer (and older) generations were raised, the man has certain household things he does, the woman has certain household things she does. The man passes on his knowledge to his sons, the woman passes on her knowledge to her daughters. The man changes the tires and mows the lawn. The woman sews on buttons and dusts. Yes, it’s 2010, and many people are making sure that their children are more well-rounded than these traditional roles (and many have not grown up in traditional households), but there are still a lot of people that are lacking this basic knowledge of living.

Here’s a small list of things every adult should know how to do:

  • Personal finances; such as budgeting, balancing a checkbook (especially debits!), savings, bill paying, etc
  • Basic car maintenance, especially changing a tire
  • How to follow a recipe
  • How to do laundry, including stain removal
  • How to mend/repair clothing
  • How to use a plunger
  • How to sharpen a knife
  • How to replace a fuse (hey, I have a fuse box downstairs!), use a circuit breaker, etc
  • How to turn off gas and water to the house (you never know when a line will burst)
  • How to change a furnace/air conditioner filter, and how often
  • Properly washing dishes by hand (first glasses, then silverware, then plates, then greasy stuff)
  • How (and why) to dust
  • How to wash windows
  • How (and why) to find wall studs
  • How to properly build a fire (yeah, really)
  • How to mow the lawn, along with basic mower maintenance
  • Basic home repair, such as nailing down a loose stair, using caulk, etc.
  • How to insert tab A into slot B (basic building instructions)

I know that not everyone has the facilities to teach these things, such as apartment living, but these are very important things to know. Of course some things are age/life appropriate. You’re not going to teach your four year old how to clean out gutters (I hope!), and you can’t really show your kid how to turn off gas to the house if you don’t have a gas main. Oh wait… do YOU know how to turn off the gas? What if there was an earthquake or some other major catastrophe?

Some of these things also require us to get past our own personal laziness. Why mend clothes when you can go just buy new ones? Because we just don’t know if our children will have the money to buy new clothes. Why teach them to chop veggies when there’s meals in a box? Because they may be interested in exploring culinary things. You might have a chef living under your roof!

Please, please pass your life skills on to your children. They will need to know these things later. Dads, teach your daughters how to replace drain pipes. Moms, teach your sons how to sew a button on. When you come upon one of these basic life things, make sure that your kids are watching. It is preparing them for living on their own. Oh yeah, it’s also a good excuse for assigning chores! ;)

And if you’re an adult that doesn’t know how to do these basic things, please do ask. If someone looks at you like you are stupid, explain to them that it’s a skill that you were never taught. And if you truly are embarrassed, or you don’t have a friend that knows how to do a particular thing (not everyone knows how to patch a leaky basement wall), look it up. Not only on the Internet, but also get books. Yeah, you know, those big stacks of paper bound together with colorful covers that impart information? Because you never know, there may be a day that we no longer have the Internet, but we will still know how to read.

Honoring the American flag

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On this Veteran’s Day, I have decided to rant a bit on what our veterans have stridently fought for: Our country, and the flag that represents it. It’s all too often that I have seen mutilated flags flapping in the breeze, tattered and faded. Flags flying in storms, and in darkness. People that don’t know how to pledge their allegiance. Have they quit teaching proper flag honoring in schools, or is everyone too lazy to bother with the proper respect for the symbol of our country? Let’s review, shall we?

Via the Flag Code:

The laws relating to the flag of the United States of America are found in detail in the United States Code. Title 4, Chapter 1 pertains to the flag; Title 18, Chapter 33, Section 700 regards criminal penalties for flag desecration; Title 36, Chapter 3 pertains to patriotic customs and observances. These laws were supplemented by Executive Orders and Presidential Proclamations.

United States Code Title 4 Chapter 1 — The Flag

§4. Pledge of allegiance to the flag; manner of delivery

The Pledge of Allegiance to the Flag: “I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.”, should be rendered by standing at attention facing the flag with the right hand over the heart. When not in uniform men should remove any non-religious headdress with their right hand and hold it at the left shoulder, the hand being over the heart. Persons in uniform should remain silent, face the flag, and render the military salute.

§6. Time and occasions for display
  1. It is the universal custom to display the flag only from sunrise to sunset on buildings and on stationary flagstaffs in the open. However, when a patriotic effect is desired, the flag may be displayed twenty-four hours a day if properly illuminated during the hours of darkness.
  2. The flag should be hoisted briskly and lowered ceremoniously.
  3. The flag should not be displayed on days when the weather is inclement, except when an all-weather flag is displayed.
  4. The flag should be displayed on all days, especially on
    • New Year’s Day, January 1
    • Inauguration Day, January 20
    • Martin Luther King Jr.’s birthday, third Monday in January
    • Lincoln’s Birthday, February 12
    • Washington’s Birthday, third Monday in February
    • Easter Sunday (variable)
    • Mother’s Day, second Sunday in May
    • Armed Forces Day, third Saturday in May
    • Memorial Day (half-staff until noon), the last Monday in May
    • Flag Day, June 14
    • Father’s Day, third Sunday in June
    • Independence Day, July 4
    • Labor Day, first Monday in September
    • Constitution Day, September 17
    • Columbus Day, second Monday in October
    • Navy Day, October 27
    • Veterans Day, November 11
    • Thanksgiving Day, fourth Thursday in November
    • Christmas Day, December 25
    • and such other days as may be proclaimed by the President of the United States
    • the birthdays of States (date of admission)
    • and on State holidays.
  5. The flag should be displayed daily on or near the main administration building of every public institution.
  6. The flag should be displayed in or near every polling place on election days.
  7. The flag should be displayed during school days in or near every schoolhouse.
§8. Respect for flag

No disrespect should be shown to the flag of the United States of America; the flag should not be dipped to any person or thing. Regimental colors, State flags, and organization or institutional flags are to be dipped as a mark of honor.

  1. The flag should never be displayed with the union down, except as a signal of dire distress in instances of extreme danger to life or property.
  2. The flag should never touch anything beneath it, such as the ground, the floor, water, or merchandise.
  3. The flag should never be carried flat or horizontally, but always aloft and free.
  4. The flag should never be used as wearing apparel, bedding, or drapery. It should never be festooned, drawn back, nor up, in folds, but always allowed to fall free. Bunting of blue, white, and red, always arranged with the blue above, the white in the middle, and the red below, should be used for covering a speaker’s desk, draping the front of the platform, and for decoration in general.
  5. The flag should never be fastened, displayed, used, or stored in such a manner as to permit it to be easily torn, soiled, or damaged in any way.
  6. The flag should never be used as a covering for a ceiling.
  7. The flag should never have placed upon it, nor on any part of it, nor attached to it any mark, insignia, letter, word, figure, design, picture, or drawing of any nature.
  8. The flag should never be used as a receptacle for receiving, holding, carrying, or delivering anything.
  9. The flag should never be used for advertising purposes in any manner whatsoever. It should not be embroidered on such articles as cushions or handkerchiefs and the like, printed or otherwise impressed on paper napkins or boxes or anything that is designed for temporary use and discard. Advertising signs should not be fastened to a staff or halyard from which the flag is flown.
  10. No part of the flag should ever be used as a costume or athletic uniform. However, a flag patch may be affixed to the uniform of military personnel, firemen, policemen, and members of patriotic organizations. The flag represents a living country and is itself considered a living thing. Therefore, the lapel flag pin being a replica, should be worn on the left lapel near the heart.
  11. The flag, when it is in such condition that it is no longer a fitting emblem for display, should be destroyed in a dignified way, preferably by burning

Okay, so those of you who burn the flag for whatever thing you’re currently protesting, you can buzz off. I’m not getting into that stupid argument. But for the rest of you: What has happened in our country to have lost the respect for the symbol of it? american_flag_1

    Learn to Letter

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    My son has been through preschool, kindergarten, and the first quarter of first grade. And at no point in any of this schooling was he taught how to form his letters properly… They just wanted him to get some close approximation of the letter shape down on paper. That has lead to very poor penmanship (okay yes, he’s in first grade, but it is very bad), which can lead to more problems in the future. Sure, nowadays everyone types, but nice (or even passable) handwriting is important. So I need to fill in that gap. DSC00803 I went to the store looking for writing tablets that show proper letter formation (start at the top, make a line down, etc) when I found these really interesting notepads. They are by Mead, called “4-in-1 Learn to Letter.” What sets these notepads apart is the fact that they have impressions in the paper that help guide the pencil to make the letters, as opposed to just dotted lines. They also have arrows with numbers, to show which line is first and what direction to write. What makes it 4-in-1 is that there’s a section of capital letters, a section of lowercase letters, a section of impressed top and bottom guide lines, then a section of just printed guide lines. Pretty sweet, and it is really helping. We’ve been using it for four days now (we are only working on capitals) and I can see that he’s improved in his letter formation. Once we get these letters down, I think we’ll move on to cursive. Crazy? Nope, my younger son learned cursive in preschool at the same time as he learned his printed letters. Obviously different schools. ;) Click to enlarge

    Considering homeschooling

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    As is the case with many states, Illinois requires certain health checks for their students. Immunization records, eye exams, and physicals (including BMI!) are mandatory for children beginning school in the state of Illinois. This is all well and good, I accept it. However, informing parents that this is required fifteen days before it is due is not acceptable. I have gotten a few calls from the school nurse in the last couple of weeks regarding this. And you know what? I can’t afford a regular doctor, we do not have health insurance. So I have to take him to the local clinic for this. They are overbooked on their schedules, so I can’t get an appointment for him until November 16th, a month after the requirement of October 15th. So the nurse has said he will be kicked out of school until then. A month without schooling can be devastating to a child’s education, so I will have to continue his education at home. The nurse tried to argue the case about going to a Walgreen’s walk-in clinic or other walk-in clinics, but I honestly can NOT afford that right now. So, what I am deeply considering is this: Using this month of his being kicked out as a trial time for home schooling. If it doesn’t work, he can go back. If it does work, we’ll unenroll him.

    I should probably specify his particular schooling situation: He is ADHD. In his school last year, his IEP (Individualized Education Plan) had him labeled as “emotionally disturbed” because he was so disruptive in class. So his new school put him in class with other “emotionally disturbed” kids… And that’s not the class for him. His teacher called and told me that he needs to be out of her class very soon, because he’s getting some very bad influences. He’s not got any worse problem than a massive case of “ants in the pants” syndrome. I am very hesitant to medicate him, because he is already very thin (ADD meds often curb children’s appetites), and because meth is bad for kids. I want medication to be a very, very last-ditch effort.

    So for my wool-gathering and for your (probably lack of) interest, here are the pros that I can think of with home-schooling him.

    • Direct attention
      My son has ADHD, and he really needs a lot of attention given to him specifically. He has since birth.  In a large r classroom he is “just a number,” so to speak.
    • Individualized education
      Just like any other child, he has his educational strengths and weaknesses. I can focus more on one subject and less on another for his individual subject needs, versus x amount per subject.
    • Potential acceleration
      When I was in school I learned very quickly, then got bored very quickly. I was a “troublemaker” because of this boredom. Rather than doing busywork in my seat, I would pester my neighbors or otherwise interrupt class. I didn’t want to write all the numbers from 1-100, how boring! I knew how to do that! Thankfully I was in a private school with smaller classes, and they identified that I didn’t have a learning disability (after having put me in remedial classes, YAWN!), but that I was very bored and needed more of a challenge. They even discussed skipping a grade, but that didn’t happen. I can’t say that my son will be like this, but it is possible.
    • Removing him from bullies
      Nothing degrades a child’s self-esteem like being bullied. Trust me, I know. And in his current class he has a couple of bullies, because he is in a class that has first through third graders. The older kids pick on him.
    • Removing him from bad influences
      He has picked up curse words from his classmates (like most parents, we don’t curse around our children). His teacher told me that he was also picking up some other very bad habits from his classmates. Apparently his school district has never had a child with severe ADHD; they have no other class options for him.
    • More positive stimulation
      How cool would it be to study about snakes during science, then have a trip to the herpetarium at the zoo to reinforce the education?

    Okay, so those are some pretty cool positives to educating him at home. However, there will also be some cons.

    • Staying sane
      Super duper ADHD boy can sometimes drive Mom nuts. And this is a very important one.
    • Lack of peers
      He’s a very social boy, and loves to be around kids his own age. There are no children in our neighborhood, so we will have to find a play group or something similar to allow him to socialize with other children.
    • I’ve got no idea what I’m doing
      Okay, so I have the Internet. I have friends that have done this too. Most parents haven’t done this before, and much of parenting is unchartered territory. But still… This is kind of a strange situation to me. Granted a child’s first teachers are their parents anyway, but this is a bit different.

    So there we go, some thoughts and ideas on the situation… And now I welcome yours. I know there’s a lot of resources out there, and I am currently exploring them. I just took a break from researching to kind of get my thoughts laid out and shared. Please leave me some feedback.

    And as I mentioned previously, IL charges for school books.  We’ve not paid it yet, so why not invest that $50 into books we can have forever? ;)